I want to read a book about boundaries

Boundaries are one of those things everyone talks about, but few people explain clearly.

These books don’t just tell you to “set limits”—they explore why boundaries are hard, what gets in the way, and how they actually change relationships.

This list includes practical insight, emotional clarity, and permission to stop over-explaining yourself.

1. Set Boundaries, Find Peace — Nedra Glover Tawwab

A straightforward, compassionate guide to understanding what boundaries are and how to communicate them without guilt. This book is practical without being harsh.

• What I learned from this book: Boundaries are about self-respect, not control.
• One idea I still think about: Clear is kinder than vague.
• Who this book is for: People who know they need boundaries but don’t know where to start.

2. Boundary Boss — Terri Cole

This book goes deeper into the emotional reasons boundaries feel so difficult—especially for people who are used to caretaking or people-pleasing.

• What I learned from this book: Overgiving is often a trauma response.
• One idea I still think about: You don’t owe everyone access to you.
• Who this book is for: Readers who feel drained but don’t know why.

3. The Book of Boundaries — Melissa Urban

Organized and highly practical, this book breaks boundaries into real-life categories—work, family, relationships, self-talk—making it easy to apply immediately.

• What I learned from this book: Boundaries can be planned, not just reactive.
• One idea I still think about: Scripts reduce anxiety.
• Who this book is for: People who want structure and examples.

If you only read one:
Start with Set Boundaries, Find Peace for clarity, then move to Boundary Boss if you want deeper emotional insight.